Music: getting started in 2024
A barista at the local cafe today asked me what a young musician can do to build more momentum with their target audiences, and how to make music that’s close to them while also appealing to what’s trendy in the mass market at that time. Admittedly, the latter question made me sad. 😂 Artists should … Read More
Vulnerability in relationships
I came across a Reddit post recently in the r/AskMenAdvice sub regarding vulnerability in relationships. The OP posed the question: help me understand the fear that someone will use your vulnerability against you. How does someone hurt you if you share personal feelings or vulnerable info? Several male redditors chimed in detailing accounts with their … Read More
The Sunday Flow: Re-watching old movies
Good Will Hunting, The Big Lebowski, Into the Wild, Jurassic Park, the Star Wars original trilogy, Indiana Jones, Midnight in Paris, Lost in Translation, Notting Hill… These are just a few of the films I’ve watched countless times. Films that bring comfort and peace of mind. Films from my childhood and films that helped me … Read More
Pennebaker writing protocol and effects on well-being
I caught a recent Andrew Huberman podcast detailing a writing protocol found to influence long-term outcomes in health and short-term indicators of physiological arousal and reports of negative moods, first introduced by Pennebaker, J. W., & Beall, S. K. (1986). Pennebaker et al. found that writing about traumatic or even trivial events can have therapeutic … Read More
The Concept of Repair with Becky Kennedy
A 2023 TED talk from clinical psychologist Becky Kennedy hit my YouTube algorithm this morning. I found the concept of “repair” interesting in the context of parenting, as her talk is rooted, but also in the context of adult-adult relationships. I’ve always struggled to name this idea of repair as Kennedy describes it, typically naming … Read More
Brianna Wiest and Letting Go
Brianna is a great writer. Looking back, I’m fortunate to have kept most of my friends. I’ve only received one “you’ve changed” and one “you’re almost there,” both in negative contexts, both implying that I don’t fit some ideal, of sufficiency or perfection. Memories that are vivid in my mind. But by practicing the values … Read More
Pizza Crawl 2023
As the fellas entered their late thirties (and forties), they decided it might be best to move away from the annual drunken Columbus, Ohio pub crawl, and adopt a more responsible pizza crawl instead. The now infamous 2022 pizza crawl saw a valiant effort to keep the focus on pizza tasting, but was interrupted by … Read More
2023 Review
I challenged myself. I completed a masters program. I traveled solo by bike through Europe. I competed in the pro division of an XC mountain bike race. I moved to a new place. I read many books. I wrote hundreds of thousands of words. I met amazing people. I prioritized my mental and physical health. … Read More
Disappointing affirmations
Disappointing Affirmations is a popular instagram handle that pairs the comedy of sarcastic affirmations, a parody of the current trend in wellness content, against the beauty of nature and landscape photos. There is an overwhelming amount of wellness content out there. Assuredly, people are becoming fatigued by it. The verdict is out on whether practicing … Read More
Adam Grant creative filtering process
From the Huberman Lab podcast. On getting feedback for a new book concept, Adam suggested the following process: Other notes Visit Adam Grant’s site at: www.adamgrant.net Visit Andrew Huberman’s site at: www.hubermanlab.com
Impermanence
A few thoughts on the topic of impermanence. Nature’s first green is gold,Her hardest hue to hold.Her early leaf’s a flower;But only so an hour.Then leaf subsides to leaf.So Eden sank to grief,So dawn goes down to day.Nothing gold can stay. — Robert Frost Life is always changing, always evolving. Anyone who has lost something … Read More
FOMO, Hedonic Treadmill, Process vs. outcomes
FOMO, or “fear of missing out”, was the subject of my guided meditation this morning. FOMO could be a leading cause to the teen mental health crisis we’re seeing. The verdict is still out on that, but many millennials and younger generations are taking note, and are actively switching off social media in an attempt … Read More
Invaluable Commodities
Some people are kind or present only as far you are useful to them. Choose wisely those you surround yourself with. Your time, heart, and mind are invaluable commodities. ❤️🧠😊👍🏼
Careers
I’ve had a lot of great jobs with highly successful companies in hyper competitive industries. Only one of those jobs was gained through the application process. Either networking is the key to success in a career, or my resume is crap. 😆
Lobha
Lobha, a Pāli word for “craving,” or “greed”. Our world revolves around wanting. This tendency to crave affects our relationships. There’s a distinction between love and wanting, or grasping. We’re all capable of love in its true sense. When we allow our friends and loved ones to be who they are, this is love. When … Read More
Bicycle Commuting, Transportation Efficiency and Safety: A US Cities Perspective
This study investigates the relationship among the volume of bicycle commuters and the occurrence of traffic fatalities, per capita, in 30 U.S. cities. The analysis controls for automobile commuters, those who work from home, average annual rainfall, average temperature, and hours lost to traffic congestion. Through multivariate regression techniques, it is found that, per 150,000 … Read More
Research Proposal: Predicting and Reducing Impulse Behavior: Can biometric technology reduce impulse decisions, improve empathy, and reduce conflict?
When couples enter a conflict, their emotions can become escalated, often lending to self- protection and aggression, and even good partners can end up in intense fights that damage the relationship. Understanding this impulse, and learning how to calm down, to shift out of fight or flight mode, and connect, can help couples develop awareness, … Read More
Research: Taking Back Control: An Unconventional Approach to Information Disorder
Introduction In this paper, I provide a brief overview of media literacy programs that have been proposed or trialed thus far, whether through public education or in a experimental lab setting, examining the pros, cons, and barriers to implementation. I examine media literacy against the full taxonomy of mis/disinformation solutions, and propose strategies derived from … Read More
A desire to change
You can guide someone, giving them all the tools and knowledge in the world, but no action can occur without the desire to change.
New York Social Ride
March 23, 2023 Follow Social Cycling NYC / TNSR on Instagram: instagram.com/socialcyclingnyc